Separation and Divorce
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I can support you in my practice or online. In all cases personally and individually.
Monday to Friday, from 09:00 to 19:00
THE PROCESS OF SEPARATION
When conflicts develop into a real crisis, the thought of a separation often comes to mind. However, we tend to only focus our attention on what we dislike and forget the sides that are familiar to us, such as common habits and rituals, behind which there are also hidden advantages of a relationship. It is now important to find out whether separation is the right solution or whether it is a matter of parting with an unbearable situation and working together to ensure greater satisfaction.
When love, trust and acceptance are no longer there and important needs are no longer being met, a breakup is the right step. The process leading up to a divorce is often grueling. Through advisory support, ways can be found to solve this situation peacefully and smoothly. Both partners can find a new start in a fulfilling life by treating each other with respect.
Setting goals together
In couples therapy in Mainz, we find out in conversations whether and why a separation is inevitable. We look at the relationship from three perspectives, that of the two partners and that of the neutral observer. The goal of the analysis is to discover the true background of the conflicts that led to the thought of separation.
It is also important for me to find out whether both partners are striving for a separation to the same extent. Sometimes we are on different time tracks. While one is already thinking about a separation, everything seems to be fine for the other partner.
Your topics
Appreciation, understanding and acceptance of people who seek help.
Our way
Once again, the key is communication. Even at this regrettable and late stage in the relationship, clear and kind communication plays the most important role.
It is important to not leave the relationship with more injury than has already occurred. Especially when it is highly like that one partner might suffer more than the other. There is a life to live after, and both should have a fair chance to live it right.
Contact us
Contact me now by e-mail or phone and tell me about your concerns. If I am not available, I will get back to you immediately and we can schedule an appointment for an initial consultation. As self paying clients, you can decide on the frequency and timing of the sessions.
Initial consultation
In an initial consultation, both partners have time to describe their situation. Most couples take 6-10 sessions to arrive at new agreements Initially, we may meet every 2 weeks. Then the intervals can be longer. Many couples return to me for a couple of sessions year after year.
Each session lasts 60-90 minutes, during which we take time to create a new experience.
Couples therapy
Couple therapy is based mainly on systemic humanistic and family therapy theories. I always allow my strong intuition to adapt to your individual needs.Â
An in-depth psychological approach is especially important with trauma-sensitive couples.Â
I will help you to overcome fears and obstacles in your life.
I am
alternative practitioner for psychotherapy
My expertise is to help you cope with personal problems, psychological load, stress and burnout.
My wish is to harmonise your feelings with your thinking and the actions you take.
My work applies a solution focused approach.
Your questions about separation and divorce
Let a couple therapist help you analyse the problem. If it turns out that nothing fundamental will change, draw a line. This is the only way you are open to entering into a new relationship and becoming happy.
There’s next to no chance of rescuing a relationship where one partner breaks out while the other doesn’t even begin to realize that something is wrong. The partners have moved so far apart that they no longer see each other. Couples therapy is useful to achieve a peaceful separation. It is different when both realize that the relationship is not going as it should. In this case, couples therapy can reinvigorate the relationship.
If you are unhappy in a relationship, there is no point in holding on to it for the sake of the children. The children feel the tension and become unsettled. The best solution is to live separately in the previous apartment. Of course, it must be spatially suitable for living apart and you must continue to be able to treat each other with respect. Otherwise, a peaceful separation, even with children, is the best solution.
