Wanting a Child
Appointment requests
I can support you in my practice or online. In all cases personally and individually.
Monday to Friday, from 09:00 to 19:00
COPING WITH WHAT IS
Any couple who has tried for a child and has experienced difficulties needs a strategy to cope with this situation. Especially if the desire persists and the couple chooses to go through the stressful and complex clinical processes. Many couples experience it as the most exhausting period of their lives. Regardless of whether you are on the way to your dream child or are forced to give up your attempts to have children, I will support you on this path. Our focus is on dealing with stress and emotions which are triggered by daily events that overwhelm you. These emotions can be envy or a feeling of having failed. I help you create perspective and generate confidence.
My support
Couples can handle the desire for a child very differently. Some leave no stone unturned and go through expensive complicated treatments. Others accept having no children of their own and want to adopt a child. Others look for a purpose in life other than caring for children. My task in the analysis is to uncover the desires and fears related to childlessness.
In couple therapy, I pay special attention to mutual blame and incompatible desires of the partners. Even in difficult constellations, for example, when the partner with the most urgent desire for children has physical reasons for childlessness, there is usually a solution.
Your topics
For people seeking appreciation, understanding and acceptance
Couple therapy
In joint discussions, I create the opportunity for you to describe your own experience to your partner without being judged. Only if you feel acknowledged for your emotions, you will succeed in dealing with the unfulfilled desire to have children. It is obvious that two partners have very different experiences. Women often grieve because they have to give up a part of their identity, namely being a mother. Men deal with it differently. The distance this creates in the partnership must be overcome.
Contact us
Contact me now by e-mail or phone and tell me about your concerns. If I am not available, I will get back to you immediately and we can schedule an appointment for an initial consultation. As self paying clients, you can decide on the frequency and timing of the sessions.
Initial consultation
In an initial consultation, both partners have time to describe their situation. Most couples take 6-10 sessions to arrive at new agreements. Initially, we may meet every 2 weeks. Then the intervals can be longer. Many couples return to me for a couple of sessions year after year.
Each session lasts 60-90 minutes, during which we take time to create a new experience.
Couples therapy
Couple therapy is based mainly on systemic humanistic and family therapy theories. I always allow my strong intuition to adapt to your individual needs.Â
An in-depth psychological approach is especially important with trauma-sensitive couples.Â
I will help you to overcome fears and obstacles in your life.
I am
alternative practitioner for psychotherapy
My expertise is to help you cope with personal problems, psychological load, stress and burnout.
My wish is to harmonise your feelings with your thinking and the actions you take.
My work applies a solution focused approach.
Your questions about the unfulfilled desire to have children
Feelings of doubt, disappointment and despair can put great pressure on the psyche. A depression, panic attacks and sleeping disorders are not uncommon. The pressure is particularly great when couples you know are having children, or when you are asked if you also want to start a family.
In the worst cases, regrettably, yes. Some couples will break up as the pressure does not allow a healthy relationship. Communication can suffer, often resulting in a lack of intimacy leading to sexual problems. A new start is needed, and it is difficult.
One in ten couples who want to have children experience difficulties. In order to come to terms with this situation, a whole tangle of expectations often has to be resolved during couple therapy.
According to the WHO, an unfulfilled desire to have children exists if no pregnancy occurs after one year of regular unprotected sexual intercourse. This definition however puts artificial pressure on couples, because the fact is that about 10% of women do not conceive at first might be able to later without any problems.Â
The pressure can be relieved by talking about the problem during therapy.Â
