Problem with In-Laws and Relatives
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I can support you in my practice or online. In all cases personally and individually.
Monday to Friday, from 09:00 to 19:00
Appointment requests
I can support you in my practice or online. In all cases personally and individually.
Telephone: 0177 879 0846 | Mo–Fr, 09:00–19:00 Uhr
COPING AS A COUPLE IN THE FAMILY CONTEXT
Parents and in-laws can have a great influence on a relationship, both positively and negatively. It is however important that the couple alone decides how they want to live.
The couple has to establish its own communication, values and rules, even if these are shaped by the families of origin. The detachment from parental home and parents plays an important role. This works if you communicate openly with your partner, involve them in decisions and show the parents that your own partnership is the top priority.
My support
An important task of the analysis to determine whether the parents are actually trying to control the lives of the young couple or whether one partner only feels this way due to different cultural backgrounds.
All interaction in the relationship, including those between the young parents and their children should be respected by the older generation.
The parents of both partners and the partners themselves are involved in the problem to varying degrees. Therefore, in analysing the problem, I work out the extent to which demarcation is necessary and the ways in which the couple can compromise when there are different needs for closeness to the parental home. I also address whether it makes sense to involve the parents in a conversation.
Your topics
Appreciation, understanding and acceptance of people who seek help.
Couple therapy
After the needs of the partners can be articulated during couple therapy in Mainz we look for a way for both sides to come closer.
Since the parents are part of the problem, we can also try to talk to them. It is much easier for the partners to agree on a compromise if the parents agree with it.
Contact me
Contact me now by e-mail or phone and tell me about your concerns. If I am not available, I will get back to you immediately and we can schedule an appointment for an initial consultation. As self paying clients, you can decide on the frequency and timing of the sessions.
Initial consultation
In an initial consultation, both partners have time to describe their situation. Most couples take 6-10 sessions to arrive at new agreements Initially, we may meet every 2 weeks. Then the intervals can be longer. Many couples return to me for a couple of sessions year after year.
Each session lasts 60-90 minutes, during which we take time to create a new experience.
Couples therapy
Couple therapy is based mainly on systemic humanistic and family therapy theories. I always allow my strong intuition to adapt to your individual needs.
An in-depth psychological approach is especially important with trauma-sensitive couples.
I will help you to overcome fears and obstacles in your life.
I am
alternative practitioner for psychotherapy
My expertise is to help you cope with personal problems, psychological load, stress and burnout.
My wish is to harmonise your feelings with your thinking and the actions you take.
My work applies a solution focused approach.
Your questions about the role of parents and parents-in-law
Parents and parents-in-law often find it difficult not to pass on their life experience to their children. They don’t skimp on good, often unwanted, advice. Listen to them and decide together with your partner at your own discretion. Your parents/in-laws only become intrusive when they actively intervene in your life or insist that you follow all advice.
As a couple, you must make decisions about the issues in your life together. When one partner conforms to their parents, the interests of the other partner fall by the wayside. It’s even worse when parents really rush against their partners and constantly degrade them. Your partner has the right that you also protect him from your parents.
